In nine short days, my second collection of poetry will be released to the world. Behind the Mask was a showing of what someone truly hides behind their every day mask they present to the world. Phoenix from the Ashes is a story of survival. It is the story of my survival but I have learned that I am far from alone. There are many people in this world that suffer with the big bad demon of depression and just as many live with PTSD. All of us that live with those things every day are survivors. I am a survivor and despite my past I have in the end chosen to keep living in this world working towards something better for me. To the those of you out there struggling these issues, please remember you are far from alone.
I’ve struggled with depression for most of my life. I have since been diagnosed with PTSD due to the trauma of my past. What trauma do you ask? I grew up in the sheltered but fearsome home of a narcissistic mother. Finding my way out of that chaotic hell was a journey that I am grateful for today that I was too stubborn to give up on. I am away from my mother. In fact, I am 5,300 miles away from my mother and have not willingly s
poken to her in over three years. There are those that still tell me things like “she’s your mother” or “you only get one mother” but they are the same people who have no idea what life under the influence with a narcissist is like. After finding a multitude of support groups and pages on Facebook, I have discovered just how many have suffered in this same hell on earth that I did. It is wonderful to know that you aren’t crazy when you live in a world like that. It was something that showed me something was never wrong with me but wrong with my mother. It was relieving in a way to discover that though I had always been raised to believe I was the problem that I wasn’t.
I’ve been on a long journey of trying to find myself since walking away from my mother. I’ve learned about different things pertaining to what I had gone through. I’ve used it to help strengthen me. I’ve also written to release the feelings I had held inside for so long. There are so many of these poems that are rooted in living with a
narcissistic parent and the invisible scars it leaves behind. Why am I sharing this? I want people to know exactly where I’ve been so that maybe my writing just might help
them find their way out of a dark hole and into seeing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know how hard trying to live through this experience is first hand and I want to help others find their way to better days in their own lives. No one deserves to have live through that kind of pain.
I want Phoenix from the Ashes: Poetry from Personal Struggle, Rebirth, & Triumph to show my journey. I have separated it into three different sections naming them Fall to Darkness, Burning Day, and From the Ashes. These seventy-five poems let you see into my soul and my pain. I set it up to be metaphorical like that of a mythical phoenix to show that anyone can theoretically have a burning day and rise from the ashes someone reborn. Anyone has that power inside themselves and if there is anything I hope to come from my poetry it is that it helps lead others to that same discovery.
I’ve added a few resources on Narcissistic Mothers below. Phoenix from the Ashes: Poetry from Personal Struggle, Rebirth, & Triumph releases November 12, 2015 in Paperback and Kindle formats worldwide from KCL Publishing. For those of you out there struggling, please never hesitate to seek help and know you’re never alone.
Cover artwork and teaser designs by Le Fey Designs
Resources on Narcissistic Mothers